You are bad if you think, or feel, or act in certain ways.
You are good, but parts of you have experienced trauma and need help to stop thinking or feeling or acting in those ways.
The past is gone. It’s impossible to heal old traumas, so just ignore them and move on.
The traumas and difficulties in our past live on inside us, stuck in those hurtful situations. But the injured parts can be safely witnessed and healed through modern techniques such as Inner Family Systems work.
Lie 3. :
Only things we can see (behaviors) are important, and we can just decide to change and make it happen.
The inner world of inner protectors, young parts, and inner wisdom cause many of our current behaviors. They need to be understood and worked with to affect change in the world.
Lie 4. :
Our physical conditions can only be affected by physical interventions (drugs, surgery).
Inner parts of us affect our bodies , and healing them can help change painful or diseased conditions.
People get what they deserve
Since we are all good, but have hurt parts, any problems or diseases are NOT what we deserve. They come from natural events, or ignorance, or feelings from inner wounds taken out on us.
The “experts” or technology will save us.
Since we are externalizing our inner wounds, salvation can only be found in healing those wounds. “Experts” are as wounded as the rest of us, but sometimes use rationality and numbers to convince us otherwise.
I am an emotional healing coach, and also a certified teacher. In this blog I'll talk about emotional challenges and how to survive them using Internal Family Systems concepts and skills..