This morning I was again panicking about the election, specifically what I needed to do or say or write about it. What can we do now? I felt hopeless. So I meditated and then wrote. I’ve always liked the story about the blind men describing the elephant- they could only describe what they felt on their side. So here’s what ideas came up for me. I hope to add to the collective wisdom here.
It seems to me that we are a wounded, delusional species. From the first time a baby cried and wasn’t comforted, or a parent took out anger on a child, or a parent taught their child to hate the neighboring village because they killed someone in their family, we have been wounded. And we have learned from our parents what to do about that wound- be stronger and fight, please people so they won’t hurt us, gather riches and show how good and powerful we are. We learn all this from our parents. And recent research has shown that wounds are passed down to future generations, so they are in some ways in our DNA.
There is also another aspect of our species- the inner wise Self. As we heal those wounds we reconnect with our inner compassion, curiosity and calmness. I know there are many systems and ways to do inner healing so we can do this connecting. The one I have experienced most is Inner Family Systems, but I believe there are others- bodywork, breathwork, others I don’t know about. When this healing happens we can let go of our delusions, release the ways our parents taught us to think and behave. We can begin to wake up.
This election was a wake up call for me. It made me face a lot of my delusions, such as that I live in a good (the best) country, that democracy will save us, and even that watching tv and eating a lot will drown my misery and guilt. I realized that I, too, have bought into the middle class fantasy- take care of my family first, it’s ok to live in an expensive apartment even though there are homeless people in my city, it’s ok to ignore injustice and intolerance as long as it doesn’t affect me and mine.
As for what to do about all this woundedness/awakening/election of disaster stuff, what came to me is that there are a few components to waking ourselves and helping others.
What do I think about the election results now? I think I need to remember these things:
-all people have learned their beliefs and attitudes from their parents as well as the culture around them
-I still have faith in the innate goodness of people- ALL people
-the process that works best for me, so I know what steps to take next , involve wanting to wake from my delusions, inner meditation and reflection, and then research and action
-the way the country was operating was NOT as ok as it seemed
-I’m willing to share my process with others
-I have no idea what any other person should do. I only know what works for me.
I hope we can all share what is helping us, because all of us need help now. I’m sending this out in the hope that at least 1 person might benefit.
Sending love throughout the country and the world,
I am an emotional healing coach, and also a certified teacher. In this blog I'll talk about emotional challenges and how to survive them using Internal Family Systems concepts and skills..